"To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order. It means adopting the burden of self-conscious vulnerability and accepting the end of the unconscious paradise of childhood, where finitude and mortality are only dimly comprehended. It means willingly undertaking the sacrifices necessary to generate a productive and meaningful reality (it means acting to please God, in the ancient language)."
Jordan B. Peterson - 12 rules for life
"In the past decade, our understanding of the neurology and psychology of habits and the way patterns work within our lives, societies, and organizations has expanded in ways we couldn't have imagined fifty years ago. We know now why habits emerge, how they change, and the science behind their mechanics. We know how to break them into parts and rebuild them to our specifications. We understand how to make people eat less, exercise more, work more efficiently, and live healthier lives. Transforming a habit isn't necessarily easy or quick. It isn't always simple. But it is possible." Charles Duhigg - The power of habit
Mistrust & Abuse
We keep repeating the pain of our childhood is one of the core insights of psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Freud called this the repetition compulsion. But this is a baffling phenomenon. Why do we do this? Why do we reenact our pain, prolonging our suffering? Why don't we build better lives and escape the pattern? Somehow we manage to create, in adult life, conditions remarkably similar to those that were so destructive in childhood. If you want to understand more about your patterns, book a free consultation.
"The threshold into letting go of an ego-focus is noticing its patterns and maneuverings, so often unconscious. We do this as witnesses, not judges. Then we become aware of the sad waste of energy that ego is expending. We feel compassion for our sacred yet pompous ego. This is how we become ready to work on dismantling and upgrading our ego. We neutralize our unhealthy egotism in order to develop and cultivate a healthy nonegotistical ego."
David Richo - You are not what you think
Many of us go through life with only a fuzzy sense of where we are going. This explains why many of us reach middle age or retirement feeling disappointed or disillusioned. If we dont have a broad set of overriding set of goals to guide us, we will never reach our destination. I encourage you to understand what is holding you back and what are your obstacles.
"My father's parents died a long time ago, and he doesn't have any brothers, sisters, uncles or aunts. Not one. Not that I can prove this. But I do know he never had anything to do with any relatives. And I never heard anything about relatives on my mother's side. I mean, I don't even know my mother's name - so how was I supposed to know about her relatives?"
Haruki Murakami - Kafka on the shore
"We strive to evolve in every area of our lives, but often the most challenging ways for us to grow are those that require us to look within, and develop a heightened level of spiritual consciousness. ...The best way to start is by learning how to detach, quiet the mind, and become more aware of your thoughts." - Kyle Greenfield, Founder of The Joy Within
You think you make decisions. But you can only control less than 5% of it. People usually awaken, when trauma happens. Do not wait for your awakening moment, go and understand yourself before it happens. So much is stored in the unconscious, even feelings of people experiencing traumatic events with you. On top, your brain connects everything slightly similar to protect you. So in the end we become these surviving machines reacting to things that happen to us. Take control, dig, understand, and let go.
"When a woman awakens and starts to own all of herself, letting go of the need to cover up or defend herself and instead accepts all of her idiosyncrasies, fears, wounds, false programs, flaws, icky moods, fat thighs, sweaty armpits etc and supports her unique imperfect self instead of judging, rejecting and wishing that she were different or like somebody else, she has entered the promised land of freedom and self empowerment.[...]
What is left is a Woman of Strength, courage, fortitude and a woman that is compassionately understanding towards others because she is able to give to others what she has given to herself...
She becomes fearlessly authentic, she finds her Voice, there is no longer shame, therefore she no longer needs to hide or change any part of herself... She's able to overcome any fears of rejection for being true to herself."
Caroline de Lisser
"Mild anger can be used in a healthy way to offset or even free us from fear. ... Fear thrives on powerlessness; healthy anger activates power. Then we only have to remind ourselves of what Aristotle said: "Everybody can get angry, that's easy. But getting angry at the right person, with the right intensity, at the right time, for the right reason and in the right way, that's hard."
David Richo - You are not what you think